Ugly Love

Love isn’t always pretty.

By Colleen Hoover | ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ (5 out of 5 stars)

After I read Rebecca, I was determined to start a new read and choose something that will be lighter (in terms of how it was written) and a bit of fresh air. I checked my Kindle library which I was able to update last week and found Ugly Love which was also set in my Goodreads To-Be-Read account. Then, I did. Without further doubt, I did. I didn’t fail.

Less than a week, in the midst of the business, I finished the book, and yes, never without a tear in my eyes. I was in such awe of the tragic reason of Miles Archer as to why he doesn’t want to open himself yet again to love and how much Tate Collins can swallow for someone even though she knows she deserves better. I guess we all are like her at some point, sometimes.

Love isnt’ always pretty, Tate. Sometimes you spend all your time hoping it’ll eventually be something different. Something better. Then, before you know it, you’re back to square one, and you lost your heart somewhere along the way.


As we grow older perhaps and with every man and woman that pass through our lives –some may have even created a dent on it–we knew how terrifying it to start over again after every heartbreak. We focused on self-blame for the most part, maybe, but just like Miles, we also have to forgive ourselves and open up to all possibilities to see where life would take us.

Sometimes a man’s spirit just ain’t strong enough to withstand the ghosts from his past.

Tate is all of us. She’s willing to accept whatever it is a man can offer to her even if it is below the minimum. We all her at some point–hoping and wishing something may change, that if we love more and be okay with anything they could only give us, they would come around and give us what we deserve. Nope. It is not true. They will give it to us if they want to. We may be the most perfect, the most available, the ultimate deal, but those aren’t assurance that they will take us or not hurt us. A man will give it to you if he wants to even if you don’t do anything, even if you don’t say so.

There are just so many things I realized while reading and after finishing the book–that we are Miles and Tate at some point in our lives. But the thing that can defy our fears is acceptance–accepting things that we cannot change, things will never have, and times or people that are not for us, and we must always be accepting of whatever it is because that is the only way to move forward. We must also not be too hard on ourselves–that before we forgive other people, we must forgive ourselves first because it is hard to share or to give something that we, ourselves, do not have.

Author: shainnehostalero

Shainne Hostalero, MDC is a social entrepreneur (owner and founder of Happy Shift PH), a communication scholar, and a writer.

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