And Just Like That…

And Just Like That…

For those of you who know and also very familiar with Sex and The City (SATC), you are probably a tita like me already or at the very least your age isn’t in the calendar dates anymore.

I’ve seen SATC quite a few times, I finished all six seasons about five times already. When I was in high school, I used to watch some of its episodes via Studio 23 (Studio 23?!) — for those of you who haven’t known, Studio 23 is a young adult-oriented network owned and operated by ABS-CBN — do you Senator Bam Aquino, Atom Araullo, Patty Laurel, and Bianca Gonzales? Yep, they were on Breakfast. Remember Y Speak? I can go on and on, but perhaps this is for another time.

Back to SATC. My favorite character is Samantha (Kim Catrall)! Of course, the fearless, sophisticated, and YOLO Samantha. But I think their personalities and life statures are complementing with one another — the romantic and believer of all love and romance, Charlotte (Kristin Davis), Miranda (Cynthia Nixon) a tough lawyer but believer of all things true, maybe a realist?, and Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker), the writer and the fashion icon.

In highschool and towards college, my dream is to have a group of girlfriends just like of in SATC. Hehe of course, life’s not like the ones we see in the films.

I got hooked to the hoola boola of Carrie and Big, Carrie’s story (perhaps a part of this website was inspired on how Carrie does it for her column), and the rest of the girls’ lovelives. How nice to be in a big city finding love, friendship, and just having fun, and so much of it!

We did not have subscription services to watch TV series in the day, that’s why recent times did us good and at an advantage because we can watch films and TV shows at our own pace.

I have subscribed to HBO Max because of Friends (another story) and And Just Like That… (AJLT) – the sequel to the SATC. It was very exciting to see characters moved on with their lives and watch them in a new light. It was good, until…

I was so confused why there is a sudden shift on Miranda’s character, but I get it also that the show has to be move inclusive and progressive as this isn’t the 90s and early 2000s anymore. I like the consistency of Charlotte and Harry with their kids all grown up and with relatable and realistic family challenges. Of course, Seema is a good addition, with all her wit and character, and Lisa, too. They were good replacements to Samantha. But, Carrie and Aidan’s love story still didn’t work out despite the years apart, and even with a new home. It was sad to see them grown older and still confronted of relationship issues.

Overall, it could still be better, but I was so surprised of its sudden discontinuance. According to the internet, it got discontinued because of low viewership and high production costs. I felt like some of the viewers are expecting that it will be light and fun like SATC, but AJLT lean more on the serious stuff. It had a nice first season, though.

Short Bacolod Work Trip

A short work trip to Bacolod — full of work, but also so food.

It wasn’t my first time in Bacolod, but it always a good experience still. This is a short trip for work, but at least was able to try some good food with colleagues after work and during lunch break with some of our officials.

Bacolod Chicken Inasal

A must-try if you are in Bacolod City! One of the things Bacolod is known for. It is best paired, of cours, with Chicken Oil and of course, Cansi (not in photo as I forgot to take).

Bacolod Batchoy

The best batchoy is debatable, I know, I know. But this one’s from 21 Bar & Restaurant is the best for me. This Special Batchoy only costs ₱180, also good for sharing if you do not have a big appetite.

Bacolod Cakes

Calea Pastries & Coffee is a go-to cakeshop in the City of Smiles. Good food in very affordable price points! They have a full array of cakes and pastries to choose from.

Calea’a best-seller is the Chocolate Mud Pie. I ordered this Frozen Mango Chiffon cake—not too sweet, good for a tita like me. After Batchoy, at 21 Bar & Restaurant, this should be the next stop.

Of course, seafood!

Gina’s Seafood Restaurant has value for money especially if you are traveling in groups. If you are familiar with Dampa, this is a bit similar. You’ll choose your preferred seafood and have it cooked the way you like ‘em.

Purple Cake

Everything purple at Purple Cake! Located at the new SM Bacolod North Block, Purple Cake is one of the best desserts I tried! It gives a unique vibe from our often consumed cakes in the Metro. Each day passes, I prefer ube cake more and more. 😅

Lechoneria specialties. Lechoneria also has some branches in Metro Manila. Too many sinful food for my last day in Bacolod. And to top it all of,

A quiet merienda vibes at the Palm Veranda before the flight back to the hustle and bustle of Manila. This chocolate cake is good—moist and flavorful for its price—and we only thought that it’s just a slice we’re getting.

I share these photos and experiences to my family and I cannot wait to go back again, this time, hopefully, with the whole fambam! ✨

Fast Fashion and its Effect on the Environment

Fast Fashion is characterized by the rapid production of trendy, inexpensive clothing, driven by social media influence. While it makes fashion accessible, it contributes to environmental issues like waste generation and water pollution. Sustainable practices can mitigate these impacts, with both consumers and brands encouraged to make responsible choices for long-term benefits.

The trendier, the better, is what we often see being utilized today as part of consumer consumption. Given the accessibility of shops through online stores or e-commerce, it is easier to purchase without much of a hassle. Though this could be a good thing economically, being mindful of what we purchase could also bring some rewards.

Fast Fashion, what it’s about

Fast Fashion refers to the rapid or hasty production of trendy and inexpensive clothing inspired by the latest trends often seen on social media, internet influencers, and/or celebrities. They are fashion items that are made affordable and accessible for public consumption.

The commencement of fast fashion could be dated back to the Pre-19th century. However, its boom came in later in the 20th century. In the 1990s, brands started to revolutionize how the public conceives them through ready-to-wear, easy-to-purchase, and greatly affordable clothing items that are readily available to the masses. Fast-forward to its continuous impact and ever-changing trends of consumerism, fashion, and its related items have become more disposable, making consumers be encouraged to purchase more and discard old trends or styles faster.

While fast fashion made new trend items like clothing, accessories, bags, etc., within reach and reasonably priced for the masses to buy, it also comes with significant environmental concerns:

  • Waste Generation

Overproduction of fast fashion items can lead to massive amounts of unsold inventory and unused and discarded clothing from consumers. Many of these garments and accessories are often made from non-biodegradable materials that can take hundreds of years to decompose.

  • Water Pollution and Overconsumption

Texting dyeing is the world’s second-largest polluter. The fast fashion industry uses approximately 700 gallons of water to produce cotton shirts, and about 2,000 gallons for a pair of jeans.

Fast fashion items are accessible and affordable; thus, we often overconsume because there is a fast-paced trend that we also frequently witness via social media that also influences us to purchase. Such consumption might not be totally wrong; however, there are impacts to the environment, to humans, and to other species that we should also be mindful of.

  • Overall Climate Crisis

While success is a collective effort, so are the crises that everyone is experiencing. While we cannot blame fast fashion alone and its consumption, it is a contributing factor to what we often witness as a climate crisis (e.g., the proliferation of chemicals and microplastics in both land and water, excess amount of waste that cannot be broken down easily, etc.).

Kudos to the fashion brands that are already making their way to sustainability by addressing these discourses. While there are a huge number of initiatives to be done, truthful efforts shall count; thus, consumers also have a role to play in terms of consumption—all these between uplifting the economy and ensuring relatability of brands, the industry, and their overall contribution.

The Take

There are some ways that both brands and individuals can combat the negative impact of fast fashion, by making sustainable choices, rewards could be sowed, albeit not instantly, but eventually.

By buying less and choosing well, not only consumers can prioritize quality over quantity but also reef stellar financial rewards for not spending so much on certain items that they will only discard after. Brands can also focus on ensuring economically considerate price points without also deteriorating the quality to accommodate bulk production. Adopting a capsule wardrobe approach can also help mix and match style pieces and create a more versatile look.

Brands should also look into more responsible production, marketing, and ethical labor practices. Implementing circular fashion that encourages recycling, repurposing, and reusing rather than discarding and offering certain incentives for participants.

While the above efforts could be done by both brands and consumers, the government also plays a significant role in making sure that these initiatives will be consistently applied. By crafting strict environmental laws and policies, incentivizing businesses that ensure fair wages and production through tax benefits and other grants, and educating consumers could go a long way.

References:

Business Insider (2019). Fast Fashion Environmental Impact Pollution Emissions Waste Water. Retrieved from https://www.businessinsider.com/fast-fashion-environmental-impact-pollution-emissions-waste-water-2019-10#fashion-causes-water-pollution-problems-too-textile-dyeing-is-the-worlds-second-largest-polluter-of-water-since-the-water-leftover-from-the-dyeing-process-is-often-dumped-into-ditches-streams-or-rivers-19

Center for Biological Diversity. (n.d.). At What Cost? Unraveling the Harms of the Fast Fashion Industry. Biologicaldiversity.org. Retrieved from https://www.biologicaldiversity.org/programs/population_and_sustainability/sustainability/fast_fashion#

Maiti, R. (2025). The Environmental Impact of Fast Fashion, Explained. Earth.org. Retrieved from https://earth.org/fast-fashions-detrimental-effect-on-the-environment/

also published in Stewarshidship Commons

Exploring Chinatown through Chinatown Museum

Explore Chinatown’s history through Chinatown Museum.

My maternal grandparents were hailed from Manila. My late grandfather, Papa, as we call him Luis A. Lim, a master electrician, had several clients in the said city. Since I grew up with my grandparents, they take me wherever they are. One remarkable one for me was the Gocheco Building in Binondo. I was maybe five or six years old when he started bringing me to Gocheco where my ninangs are (who are pure Chinese and Chinese-Filipino or Chinoy), and we often attend the building administrators’ Christmas Parties, Chinese New Year parties, and many other gatherings. Once or twice a week, Papa would take me to Gocheco and I would play with his colleagues there or other friendly residents while he checked electric wires and other sections of the building that needed tending to.

Since we usually commute (this was probably before the owner-type jeep of Papa), I was exposed to walking along the streets of Binondo, Tondo/Abad Santos, and Sta. Cruz, Manila. All credit to Papa for making sure I become street-smart, especially growing up. While my grandparents grew up and studied in Manila, Papa already bought land in Valenzuela (where I was born and raised) during his years of being an OFW in Saudi.

Sidenote: If you can imagine an OFW wearing a maong or denim jacket, gold necklaces, gold rings, a Seiko watch, with matching Ray-Ban eyeglasses, that’s how Papa was once. Hehehe.

But he continued other electrician-related jobs in Manila since he already built his network before he officially went full-time at the Quad Alpha Centrum Building in Mandaluyong as a Building Administrator for 20 or so years until he retired at age 65 and became a consultant until age 72. My memories in Gocheco and the streets of Binondo weren’t as vivid as the ones I have in Valenzuela and Laguna (where I also lived and studied for 2 academic years) but I have become more familiar with the streets of Manila and its history when I attended college at the Far Eastern University (FEU) in the 2000s and when I started working in the same city and transferred residence permanently in 2014.

A decade since then,  living in Manila has been a delightful experience for me. It’s near everything. If you are like me who was from quite far north of the Metro, you know that it is a bit challenging if public transport is not available or accessible. You also need to travel far to get access to good hospitals, malls, and other amusement parks, and other specialty stores; hence, in another story, the reason why I am proud of how Valenzuela City has become now—it has been developed to be one of the nicest cities to live in Metro Manila. I found myself enjoying Manila more since it has many great places to visit like the National Museum, the National Library, Intramuros and Fort Santiago, the Metropolitan Theater, Luneta, and many others. I have always liked exploring museums since I am keen on knowing history. I’ve read so many history books and even banned books about the lives of people, cultures, and other related materials. I have always been fascinated by the works of Ambeth Ocampo, Nick Joaquin, Leon Ma. Guerrero, and other historians, novelists, and authors.

Of course, I am one of those who research the famous streets of Manila, their history, and other stories enveloping them. Hence, it was a great experience for me that we were able to explore Chinatown, through the Chinatown Museum, which we have learned that we are still part or resided in even though we are not in Binondo per see.

Map of Chinatown, Manila

According to the friendly museum tour guide, Kuya Rey, who by the way also great at taking photographs, this map depicts the whole of Chinatown. Nowadays, we only believe that Binondo = Chinatown. So, whether you are from Tondo, San Nicolas, or Sta. Cruz, and Quiapo, you belong to Chinatown, Manila.

We also saw some remarkable stores in the town, especially during the 1800s and the early 1900s since Manila was the center of trade and commerce. They are incredibly educational especially if you have children below 10 years old as they can also see and explore other old/vintage items that Filipinos used in the past like typewriters, flat iron, ceramics, stereograph (which my son believes it’s an old VR-like tool), old Chinese-Filipino newspapers, telephone, radio, and other essential household items.

Tobacco Factories / Tobacco of Historical Chinatown Manila

It was a great sight to see the collections and other galleries that depict the old Chinatown. It takes you back to how it was before and how rich the history of old Manila was.

Depiction of Tobacco Factories and Rum Distillery in Chinatown, Manila
Depiction of old Panaderia (Bakery) showcasing hopia, siopao, mooncake, etc. in the old Chinatown, Manila
The old Polland Hopia Factory

It was kind of nostalgic to see displays and other delicacies that we also enjoy today like Polland Hopia. It was extra delightful to know that we were all able to survive the pandemic, may it be the business or the people.

Tranvias de Manila

We were surprised to discover what public transportation in Manila was like before. We still see kalesa in Luneta and Intramuros these days but this tram or Tranvias de Manila is a first for us to see and it can carry at least 20 people (sampuan like a jeep). Nice to see how our public transportation has grown and eventually got stuck. Charot! According to Chinatown Museum, many of the trams were destroyed in World War II (WWII). Instead of rehabilitating, the trams were replaced by other modes of transportation like the jeepneys we still have today.

There is just so much more you can discover in the Chinatown Museum, take time to also read the information given in the collections and galleries. Your friendly tour guides like Kuya Rey can give you more details, especially about the items in the available collections. Through him, we were able to see that the vintage typewriter is still working, and its ribbon hasn’t been changed since 1945! He also let us try the stereograph and see its wonder; we were also able to smell herbs and spices like the cinnamon harvested in 2019 versus the one in 1910. Amazing how the aroma of the latter is stronger than the one from five years ago. Do not touch or try the items without proper guidance or authorized personnel.

Tickets are available on-site:

  • Regular: Php 150.00
  • Senior Citizen or PWD: Php 120.00
  • Student: Php 100.00

The mode of payment can be through Cash or GCash (I’m not sure if they accept Credit/Debit Card payments). The Chinatown Museum is located at the 4/F Imperial Wing, Lucky Chinatown, Reina Regente Street, Binondo, Manila.

More information about the museum can be found here: https://www.chinatownmuseum.org/ or https://www.facebook.com/ChinatownMuseum.

See you in Manila!

2024 Reads

In 2024, I embraced reading to find peace, achieving my goal of 20 books while minimizing social media use.

This year, 2024, has been very challenging for me–professionally and personally. Annually, I challenge myself to read a certain number of books. I don’t do much on the numbers but I’m happy if I’m able to hit my targets because it is a testament of my re-wiring to a more peaceful or quieter side of the earth, at least for me, which is reading.

I’m not sure, but I think I have shared this already in one of my posts here on the site, that I have started reading books since I knew how to. I was a kid in the no-internet-yet era so reading has been one of those hobbies I have gained affection for as a painfully shy child. As an adult, it matters to me that I read more than I scroll. Social media, as advantageous for all of us in terms of our careers, studies, and personal lives, could also have a lot of disadvantages–for most, I think, and this has been studied as well by many professionals and researchers, that we spend so much time on social media now than in other usual things we used to enjoy before.

Yet, we cannot go back to how it was before. That, we know for sure. However, I think, we should control technology and innovation leveled to us and how it can serve as well, rather than the other way around. In that sense, I infused reading on both digital and traditional. It saves me a lot of resources and space, too.

At the end of 2023, I know that the new year will be busier for me. And it was true, more than the level I expect, actually. On an average, I only target 20 books to read per year. Some years, I achieved more, but I’m happy just to hit a 100%. For me, it means that I have put an effort to reading and I have shied away from too much social media. All the more, with some exceptions (e.g., friends who will far, studies, video games, business, work etc.), I have valued physical interaction (or none at all, please, as an introvert) and my offline life which I spend with my friends, family, experiences, research, business, and of course, books.

According to my recorded stats (through an Excel file that I keep–if you know me, you’d know I like organizing things, it could be a good thing or a bad thing, up to you to choose), I have read 20 of 20 books (100% target achieved) with a total of 6,738 pages. Ten of which I read are e-books, and the other 10 are physical books.

Fable.co says that I am a “Chaos Connoisseur: Your eclectic picks scream “book hoarder convention”; still, you revel in stories that defy genres and expectations.” I had a hard time looking at what to read this year, even though I have already finalized a list to read–but I guess, it will really depend on your mood or what interests you (like films or TV series I have seen or things I have gotten curiosity about based on reviews and conversations with people).

If you are looking for books to read next year, 2025, these are some of the books I have read this year, 2024:

TitleAuthor
1. After I DoTaylor Jenkins Reid
2. The Scarlet LetterNathaniel Hawthorne
3. The Duchess DealTessa Dare
4. Some People Need KillingPatricia Evangelista
5. MiseryStephen King
6. OutliersMalcolm Gladwell
7. The Idea of YouRobinne Lee
8. Verity (The Collector’s Edition)Colleen Hoover
9. Surrounded by IdiotsThomas Erikson
10. Howl’s Moving CastleDiana Wynne Jones
11. Forget Me NotJulie Soto
12. The Housemaid’s SecretFreida McFadden
13. The PrecipiceNoam Chomsky
14. Anne of Green GablesL.M. Montgomery
15. Before the Coffee Gets Cold (#2)Toshikazu Kawaguchi
16. Never GreenerRuth Jones
17. Intimacy and Midnight All DayHanif Kureishi
18. Sweet Bean PasteDurain Sukegawa
19. The Law of InnocenceMichael Connelly
20. Infinite Lives, Infinite DeathsDouglas Candano

This 2025, I’m thinking to cut down targets to 12 (1 book per month). I’m thinking to immerse and absorb more from a book and give them more time in my head to process (or even share or make content about so you too can also dive deeper if it also spark your interest). We’ll see where the next year takes us. I hope it will be better for all us, more than we can imagine—if it’s not too much to wish for.

Demure Gaming

Like a good book, video games can take you to different adventures where you are in control but with concrete challenges, too. Try and try, because just like in real life, there are villains there, as well. 😉

My first introduction to video games was, of course, the family computer—a classic thing in a somehow privileged household —and growing up with uncles and aunts who were professionals and a parent who was abroad. And then there was PlayStation (PS), the PS1, Game Boy (Classic) the Dreamcast, Nintendo SNES, Wii, PS2, and the PC. My late uncle owned that many—always into something new on the gaming front, but my first-ever owned game console was a Game Boy Color Pikachu edition—exactly like this photo below.

I couldn’t remember if I was 9 or 10 years old when my dad gave us our own Game Boy Color (my kuya got the purple Game Boy Color—he was so kind and understanding as a kid, and more so an adult if I may say, he let me have the Pikachu edition). We used to watch Pokemon every night (there was a time it was shown every night at 7:00 PM, I think on GMA 7, Cyborg Kuro-chan, and Crayon Shin-chan on ABC 5, if my memory serves me correctly).

Usual Game Boy has many games you can choose from—I played Hercules, Smurfs, Mega Man Xtreme, Bomberman Quest, and of course, Pokemon. I have managed to finish Pokemon Gold and Silver, the Crystal Version, the Blue Version, and the Red Version (the Yellow version I am not so sure if I was able to finish). Going back to PS1, since this was one of the consoles we played as kids (and we quarrel the most about with my cousins), we usually played Bust-A-Move, Sonic, Metal Slug, Crash Bandicoot, Pepsiman, Spyro the Dragon, Gran Turismo, Tekken, Need for Speed, and Street Fighter. Looking back, it was fun—of course, unlike most kids today, all these video games are by schedule; most of the time, I read and play with my cousins outdoors (P.S. I had no other playmates growing up except my cousins as I was painfully shy as a kid—and an adult, too, but due to college training and an extroverted career path, I was able to overcome shyness, most of it).

In High School, all the way to college, I became aware of the furthering tech in gaming—PC-based games like Audition, O2Jam, StarCraft, Dota, Counter Strike, and Left 4 Dead, to name a few ones I have tried. Graphics became better, game plays were more precise, innovative controls, and well-thought-out game plots. If we were schoolmates or batchmates in college, I think you’d be able to resonate with how Morayta has changed from having so many computer shops around to random inuman establishments, and now coffee shops. I make it a point to pass by at least once a week to—wala lang, feel the air maybe, and take you back to that nostalgia of when life was so much simpler. Hehe.

Fast forward to the present, one thing that made adulting fun for me is now I can buy games I want with 30% less overthinking. I am used to living alone and, often, since I don’t like going out or traveling much (I have traveled enough to various places in and out of the country to know that I don’t like traveling and that I’d rather stay home hehe), my days were filled with three things: 1) books, 2) video games, and 3) TV series/film. I didn’t own another game console after my Game Boy Color until the pandemic came, I usually play via mobile—simulation games mostly and not so much RPG. Nintendo Switch elevates the experience for me (I like it more than the PS4, as I reflect on it most of the time, probably because of its portability). For a while, like a looooong while, I only played Animal Crossing—there was a good enough reason why it was so hyped, okay?! I usually play the same simulation/farming, and demure games, because they decompress and de-stress me (hindi yata talaga ako pang Final Fantasy kinakabahan ako kapag it’s go time hahaha). PC is also a trusted source of entertainment, I can live without television but not a computer (but I remember I owned an LCD LG TV where I saved movies in a USB flash drive plug it on that TV, and binge-watch TV series and movies).

From Animal Crossing, I also entertained the thought of Asphalt 9 and got hooked. I was quarantined a couple of times during the pandemic (although I didn’t experience being positive for the virus) and Asphalt was a source of joy hehe aside from the other novels I read in isolation. I am not a big gamer myself—big here means the streamer-kind with streamer-rich games like Valorant, Mobile Legends, and the like, but if you just want to be entertained and have an outlet after a stressful day, here are some (mostly demure and cozy) games I currently play that you may want to try too:

  • Animal Crossing. There is something to the hype of this game that you may try. It is very cozy and cute! Though it is only available on Switch.
  • Asphalt. Any Asphalt version is okay. I played (and still play from time to time) Asphalt 9 for quite a long time lalo nung pandemic. Maganda na ‘yung Chevrolet Camaro ko diyan, upgraded na. Hehe. Available on Steam and Switch (I guess pati sa PS).
  • Story of Seasons: Olive Town. I bought this quite recently because I was able to exhaust all things to be upgraded and be done in Animal Crossing. It is a very relaxing game and you’d know more about farming. Hehe. I play this via Switch, I am not just sure if available sa PS4 like Harvest Moon (which is now available via mobile—Android and iOS, it is not free though, around PHP1,000).
  • Pokemon: Let’s Go Pikachu. I bought this one too quite recently, natapos ko na, pero hindi siya madali haha, typical Pokemon game where you battle and collect Pokemons, the graphics are so good and the animations are way better than previous versions. There are so many versions of Pokemon already, ito ‘yung kinuha ko na version kasi I know most, if not all Pokemon here. Doon sa mga bago hindi ko na kabisado, hindi ko na kilala. Parang nung nagpunta rin ako sa Japan this year, most displays bagong Pokemons na. Si Pikachu, Eevee, Squirtle nalang yata ‘yung familiar ako doon sa showcased.
  • NBA2K. Available on PS, Switch, and PC. My main advice is if you are to play via your PC or laptop, download Steam as there are many FREE games that you may try or you may get affordable ones that you may enjoy. Challenging ‘yung mga new control combinations nito sa PS, but of course, it’ll take some time to get used to. Practice practice lang. Pili ka nalang muna ng malakas na team with best roster of players hehe parang GSW ganyan.
  • Stardew Valley. If you like Animal Crossing, ito yung medyo nauna doon. Available via mobile, PC, and Switch. I’m not sure if this is available on PS. But for me, this is better played via mobile or Switch. It is just slightly harder to navigate via PC, but this is just for me lang naman. So you’ll get rich faster, you may want to concentrate on mining here.
  • Metal Slug. Nostalgic. Hehe. Meron nito sa mobile, try mo. The 2D version is much better for me.
  • Super Mario Bros. Anything Mario is good. This is a classic. I bought the Super Mario Bros. Wonder and played it via TV—awesome graphics, splendid effects, easy to navigate and control, too! Worth it! Mapupuyat ka lang. Bawi ka nalang sleep after.
  • PUBG. Mas okay laruin sa PC hehe ang hirap sa mobile.
  • Call of Duty. Mas okay laruin sa PS. If you like to download this via Steam on your PC, make sure that you have enough memory space because there are other assets that it will install to ensure that the game functions rather smoothly.
  • Crash Bandicoot 4. Hindi ko pala ito ni-re-recommend, why do I even write it here. Ang hirap nito! Haha. Go for the Crash Bandicoot 3 nalang or the Classic Warped, not this one. Instead na ma-de-stress ka ma-stress ka pa lalo. Kung may PS1 ka pa, this will bring a lot of good childhood memories.

Some other games that I will try or I’m looking forward to:

  • Skyrim. I’ve tried this sa PC, okay siya. I think better controls if sa Switch.
  • Pokemon Legends: Arceus. I have this but I haven’t started it yet.
  • Mario Kart. Because, again, anything Mario is good!
  • The Legend of Zelda: Echoes of Wisdom. Coming this September 2024
  • Pokemon Legends: Z-A. Coming next year, 2025.

These are just some demure games (mostly) you can play at your own pace. Like a good book, video games can take you to different adventures where you are in control but with concrete challenges, too. Try and try, because just like in real life, there are villains there, as well. 😉

Navigating the Workspace in the New Gen: Understanding the Reality of Office Communication

Technology’s impact on communication and organizational culture is significant. The integration of analog and digital experiences shapes communication challenges and opportunities in the workplace. Generational differences and power dynamics influence communication effectiveness. Leaders play a crucial role in adapting communication approaches to ensure organizational harmony and success in the digital world.

A brief interpretive research

In Tina Fey’s book, Bossy Pants, I laughed, but even more believed when she said “Technology doesn’t move backward. No society has ever de-industrialized. The reality of technology has broadened ever since its introduction. Thus, it changed a lot, if not all, in our current veracity.

I was born at a time when technology was starting to be employed in our daily lives. In that sense, I was born in a generation when I got the chance to experience both analog and digital, and currently reminiscent of how it was to do it manually and do it digitally. To analogize it easily, college research was not as easy as how I did it when I was taking my doctorate. Technology had limitations when I was a student compared to now, but there are already endless opportunities, especially when you know how to maximize them.

There is no escaping the tech reality that has become now. It transformed how we do business, how we study, and even how we communicate with one another. The pandemic has been both the driving force and the evidence that adaptability to technology was crucial, thus even equated to our survival. Eventually, it has become our truth, “No society has ever de-industrialized.” We just keep moving forward, technology at the center of each goal and mission.

Organizational Communication

Communication is part of every organization, an essential and crucial aspect at that. It was given that effective inter-organizational communication can ensure the efficiency of an organization. On the other hand, inefficiency in proper and healthy communication in the workplace can reduce an organization’s productivity, leaving people demotivated, and eventually can cause poor performance.

The Organizational Communication Theory reiterates that there are five (5) functions of communication: management, feedback, information, persuasion, and emotional sharing. The communication process is ever so important; thus, migrating to its digital sort could mean success to any organization that can successfully implement such a process.

Upward and downward communication processes could be done traditionally and digitally. In this current standing of how organizations should adapt, the communication process using technology could have added challenges, as one’s interpretation could be subjective depending on one’s current emotions, struggles, or even success.

The Older Generation

Taking it from other generations in the workplace, some, though not all, cannot get the hang of it—the current trend in communicating with others. In this era where three generations blend, adjustments can be made, albeit ever so challenging.

Generation gaps could be an issue but could be an advantage if they coincide with the needs and preferences of one another. While the older generation could have a longer attention span and Gen Z1 may not, there are many things in technology communication that they can learn more from the younger generation.

So, what is it? Tailor-fitting the process whenever we need to communicate? Yes and no, really. Yes, because situations vary and rankings may be pertinent, and no, because in the workplace, professional communication shall prevail no matter what generation you may be in. This is more challenging than the very first take; however, being knowledgeable about the communication style and professionalism could save us from a lot of stress in the workplace. And another no, yelling and tapping tables are not included when upset.

Where It Fails

Communication in the workplace is critical in ensuring harmonious relationships between people thus, resulting in quality output. Effective and active communication are factors in making sure that the organization and its stakeholders achieve the enumerated objectives.

Attitudes and behaviors are pertinent tools in messaging. Communication fails when one’s character at the time of communication is different from the other. Let’s face it: one cannot tailor his/her behavior to every communication encounter, but I have witnessed many workplace employees act differently towards their bosses and subordinates.

Could we have a uniform approach for both rank and file and executives? Yes, ideally. However, people react to their bosses differently than their team members or subordinates. One main reason is the employee evaluations; hence, putting their best foot forward and not so much candidness can be re-enacted compared to when being with their other colleagues or staff. They could be a lot more comfortable exhibiting who they are to the latter because no fear of appraisal can influence their job ranking, promotion, or overall feedback—or so, they thought.

Just because we think that there is no valuation, especially with employees we have the same ranks with or lower, that does not mean that we can treat them indifferently or worse, exhibit power-tripping2. Communication fails not just because of lack of awareness, but more so the lack or absence of reverence towards other the members of the organization.

What You Can Do

Leaders have a critical role in the organizational culture. They set trends, processes, and overall behaviors. However, the generation today is more vocal and assertive, they can assert themselves and see gray lines and make them clearer. This could be an eye-opener and challenging at the same time for leaders in the workplace.

While communication can be a complex thing; only if you are open to the workplace and workers’ changes and adapt to them can make it simpler. The more we resist, the more it tends to be more difficult. I often hear such change-related complaints from those who have already served long in the organization—they see some changes are not necessary, but what they failed to remember is that the only thing that keeps us going is to be transformative and innovative—communication style and overall organizational communication included.

There is no sense in making it difficult for the current generation because we had it difficult during our time. The key here is to educate rightfully and critically. There may be many things that the current generation or the new ones in the workplace can understand but immersing them into the organizational culture could be an important identifying factor towards harmony. In addition, novices in the company or the younger generation must listen first and mutually understand how processes are formed and how they play a role in how the organization was made. Criticize if needed, but respect the foregoing culture of thought, and introduce innovative ways that meet both past and present.

Leaders are different from bosses. Leaders know how to take accountability for their actions or lack thereof. Communication, effective at that, should be taken more seriously and adroitly. Communication, while a topic not being discussed frequently during meetings or town halls, can make or break an organization, especially in this technology-driven world.

As said, we cannot go backward to how it was, but only forward to what it will be. Active and effective communication is easier in this digital world, but only those who practice the skills of understanding and getting their message across, without many emotional blunders, can reap greater rewards.

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HBD, Kuya Denz.

It is sad to admit that invites from you will never come again but knowing that you are in a better place now is my consolation.

It’s a riot whenever I think that I have not lost only one Luis in my life, but two. Aside from sharing the same first name, and surname that, both share the same sting. They also share the same cemetery. I, on the other hand, hold a shared pain.

I often wonder what conversations would be like now that I have gained more exposure to the world. I always like to tell my side of stories and haggle about what burgers taste good and in what restaurant or burger joint holds the best. I wonder what we will be doing now and what day in February you’d tell me that I needed to visit because you would have a celebration. I always wait every time, wish it could come sooner, but now I know it would not. It is sad to admit that invites from you will never come again but knowing that you are in a better place now is my consolation.

Maybe people would notice that I am always writing about grief. There is some truth to that. I cannot tell this side of the story verbally and face-to-face with someone because it will tear me up, so I resort to writing thinking that perhaps, it will ease some of my heavy load from that loss. It does.

How’s everything there in heaven, Kuya Denz? Do they have lechon there for your birthday? I have not seen you much in my dreams lately. Are you having fun where you are? You know, whenever I meet someone new, especially someone known or famous, I grab my phone and start to text you, but I remember I can’t, because no one will receive my texts anymore.

This should be a celebratory because it is, by far, your birthday; albeit not here on Earth, but somewhere better, I suppose. I have new jokes now, I have innovated them; I wanted to tell you, but maybe in dreams, or through the wind, or whispers hoping you could hear them.

In the past, I always wished you good health and a long life, so we could eat more burgers. To tell you honestly, I no longer know what to wish for you. I have more favors I need from you or wishes for myself that maybe you can grant (e.g., guide me, give me a funny thing to remember so I’d not be anxious, Lotto number combinations, etc.).

I always think of you whenever I witness beautiful things, new places, and new people. I wish you were here to see all of them or even just hear about them. Life’s boring without you in it. That’s the truth.

Is Papa there with you? Maybe you guys are having fun. I really do not have any idea, but thinking about that could be comforting. I wish I could see you in my dreams again with your oversized blue shirt. Happy birthday, Kuya Denz! I hope you are having a great time up there.

From Roaming Services to Dedication Pages with Papa

Our favorite hobbies to do together were watching news and documentaries and talking about the economy and politics na kung mag-usap kami eh akala mo parte kami ng gabinete.

I was checking roaming subscriptions while having coffee because I was informed that I need to be abroad for several days by the end of the month. It was always pointed out by you that, that’s just how I am–reading everything I can first and getting answers through some help tips on the internet even when I know calling my service provider that I need roaming services from this date to that date is far much easier. And then you’d say, “Don’t be so shy talking to people.”

Papa, I’m happy to report that I’m not that shy anymore.

I always remember your voice asking me questions. I don’t want to forget how it sounds either. But sometimes I wish I could hear you again; even from a stranger who sounds a bit like you just to remind me more. Because there were times it fleets, and I don’t want those memories to slip away. Then I can hear you in my head again, you’d say, “You always remember things,” or sometimes when things get to be too difficult and hurtful for me, you’d say “Forget about them.”

Yes, Pa, I always remember things, and I can’t forget about them.

During a discussion in our technical working group for a project, I was able to share some certifications or professional certifications I had gained and experienced before. It led me to memory in 2015 when I got my Media Literacy certification from an international educational institution and how I told you about it. Funny it was, I told you about what I have learned to become media literate, and you, with a grin, told me that “maybe you should teach me how to use Facebook now.”

Papa, I wish there was Facebook in heaven.

Writing the above paragraphs, I had to pause every ten minutes or so because I kept weeping. I was convincing myself that maybe I was crying because I was just tired, and I knew how the next week and the week after would be more arduous and demanding for me. But I resigned that fact, I was weeping not because I was exhausted, but because this loss, seven months after, felt like a loss just a day past.

I whimpered when I finished my dissertation because finally my doctorate was done, and dog days were over. I wailed when I was to submit my final manuscript and had to write the dedication page. In my master’s thesis, I told you I dedicate it to you, and you said, “Thank you.” I guess, that’s where you always belong—on my dedication page—because it seems always achievable whenever I dedicate what I do to you.

You taught me the value of hard work and to not give up. While there is some sense in always fighting and fighting fair, you also taught me how to “forget about them” and how in the face of adversity, to tell myself initially that “okay lang ‘yan,” and later sob and be reminded that I have emotions too no matter how strong I can be because “I always remember things.”

A lot of people think that losing someone you love can make a special occasion so difficult. It is true. But not all would dare say that the every day and the most mundane things could be harder and bring you back to yesterday’s pain. Maybe it was just roaming services for them, but for me, it meant a lot more than just subscribing to it whenever I was away. Aside from I could be reachable by people in the office or in my enterprise, or my friends, that roaming service was the reason why I could text or call you whenever I was abroad.

Facebook was a lost cause for you, as we did not power through learning to use the platform when you were still alive. Because you said so yourself, “It’s too complicated, text nalang kita.” And sure, of course, I always waited for your texts, and even more so, your replies.

Even if there is Facebook in heaven, it’s sad that I still won’t be able to reach out to you. I wish my roaming services could text and call you then. But more importantly, I wish my prayers could lead you to the most beautiful places, just like how your prayers did for me. I miss you every time, Papa. To you, I dedicate every page.

P.S.

Luis A. Lim, my grandfather or Papa to me, died last July 8, 2023. He funded my schooling from kindergarten to college, honed me, and disciplined me to be the person I am today. Our favorite hobbies to do together were watching news and documentaries and talking about the economy and politics na kung mag-usap kami eh akala mo parte kami ng gabinete.

After he died, I did not watch the news anymore, I just read them. The news on TV (or any digital streaming outlet) reminds me so much of his demise. Seven months after his passing, a lot has changed but never the pain I felt when I lost him. Maybe I wrote this because that said pain demands to be felt and I like to feel it, because as painful as it may be, it reminds me so much of the good times we spent together.

Papa is the first person who made me feel I’m likable as a human being even as a painfully shy and always misunderstood kid. He taught me the necessary principles to have to get on this life. Looking back, I’m glad I have listened, because life turns out better for me (I guess). Albeit it’s imperfect and difficult at times, I’m blessed to have witnessed good things and become a good force of nature even in my own little way. That’s how Papa was for me.

Daily Behaviors Leaders Must Be Mindful Of

Being a boss is easy, but being a leader, a true one at that can be challenging. You need to constantly know how to keep your subordinates engaged, empowered, and motivated. Hence, the fact that being at the top of the organizational chart can pave the way for more opportunities and financial benefits, being a leader is not a simple feat.  Thus, you must also know how to differentiate between being a boss to being a leader.

In my nearly 15 years in the workforce, I had my fair share of various bosses and leaders combined. In fact, I have learned that you don’t need a high position to lead because leadership can be considered both a skill and a passion. However, I have also witnessed that there are advantages when one is given a position—to be one of the primary forces towards the accomplishment of the organization.

While great strategies can lead to the organization’s success, proper communication can ensure their effective implementation.

Being good at communicating is one skill that every leader should learn. While great strategies can lead to the organization’s success, proper communication can ensure their effective implementation. Leaders are usually at the forefront of such plans, and it is difficult to make do if one does not know how to effectively communicate.

High positions in an organization may include a starter pack: instant credibility, an ounce of automatic respect, benefits, and an instant voice. But this starter’s advantages require consistency and innovation, too, or proving that these factors that come in a position are in fact true for the privileged person. Otherwise, you will turn into someone people in the organization avoid or worse, hate.

Drawing from observations and experiences, here are some behaviors a leader should be mindful of daily:

Being a leader is different from being a boss.

Negative Facial Expressions and Body Language. It is true that “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it,” aside from the tone of the voice, it is also pertinent to ensure that words are backed up with actions—literally. As a leader, part of the job is showcasing positive genuine actions towards your team members especially if situations do not also merit words but actions too. One could say he/she is happy for you, but it does not reflect on his/her face; thus, affecting his/her credibility altogether. There are various non-verbal offenders towards somebody in the workplace: furrowed brows, raised brows, scowling, stamping of feet, hard tapping on the table, etc.

Selectivity. In the initial part of this article, I have pointed out that being a boss is different from being a leader, and there is a pertinent reason why we should differentiate it. Leaders find their worth with the people they help and not the other way around. I have seen some leaders, or bosses rather, that ensure they are feared thinking that it equates to respect. Some are high on the pedestal that they see more value in themselves than the people and their kills combined. Leading is not only about putting direction to an office or a pack, but it is also about mentoring and integrating positivity, changes, and other new learnings (and even unlearning) into the organization.

One example employees had commonly come across before from a certain boss was a boss that reiterates he/she does not mingle with the staff because he/she wants to draw and maintain the line between his/her people. While it is a leadership style that we may all respect because of valid reasons, it does not work efficiently as leading. Leading involves people and not mingling with the people may not be leading at all. You do not need to be a ‘life of the party’ type of person to make this thing successful, you only need compassion. The higher you are in the organization, the more you must create ways how you can reach your people.

Staff often remark on how discouraging for them to see an immediate superior act in two different ways.  One thing that I have also noticed from this type of boss is that they are selective. They only interact well and showcase respect to people who share the same designation as them or to people higher than them in the organization (thinking about their evaluation). However, higher-ups do not usually judge how you treat them, they evaluate how you treat people lower than you. Toxic, huh? It happens.

Disrupting and Micromanaging. There are many disruptions a bad leader does to his/her colleagues. One common experience employees often had was a boss calling them multiple times a day to tell them the exact same thing and they ended up not finishing the things delegated to them. This causes a stressful work environment especially since every office often works with a deadline. Staff habitually feel strained if the boss takes so much of their time and communicates ineffectively. Such disruptions could be a mere tiny interference at first but later lead to micromanaging.

As you reflect on this, such behaviors can be solved through proper communication in the workplace. Great leaders are expected to ensure soft skills are hard skills that are essential to every organization’s success. Otherwise, refusal to improve would mean one is not ready yet to lead.

The opinions expressed here do not represent those of any organization, individuals, or companies that I am affiliated with or employed by.  

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